1 / 2How to Feel Loved: Five Mindsets for Deeper Connection
Deeper: How to Feel Loved by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis presents five mindsets for building a stronger sense of connection. It emphasizes sharing vulnerability, listening to learn, curiosity, affirmation, and accepting complexity across romantic, family, and friendship relationships.
At a glance
- Introduces Sharing, Listening-to-Learn, Radical Curiosity, Open-Heart, and Multiplicity mindsets.
- Applies its relationship framework to romantic relationships, friendships, family, and beyond.
- Presents conversation and mutual understanding as a back-and-forth process.
Reference price: $34.00
Price checked: Nov 14, 2026
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Pros and cons
Pros
- The five mindsets provide distinct ways to think about vulnerability, listening, curiosity, kindness, and human complexity.
- The subject matter extends beyond romantic relationships to friendships and family.
Technical specifications
8 specifications| Publisher | Harper |
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| Publication date | February 10, 2026 |
| Language | English |
| Print length | 416 pages |
| ISBN-10 | 0063426668 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-0063426665 |
| Weight listed | 1.17 pounds |
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| Dimensions | 6 x 1.19 x 9 inches |
Who is it for?
Customer reviews on Amazon
- 5 stars
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Customer feedback highlights the book's content, practical ideas, and research-based approach. For readers looking for usable conversation perspectives, these reported strengths fit its five-mindset framework. Aggregate ratings are generally favorable but include a smaller range of lower ratings, so responses are not uniformly positive.
Positive themes
- Customers describe the content as powerful and mention practical ideas.
- Feedback appreciates the research-based approach and its combination of scholarship and journalism.
Frequently asked questions
What is How to Feel Loved about?
It proposes five mindsets for feeling more deeply known and loved: sharing, listening to learn, radical curiosity, an open heart, and multiplicity.
Does the book focus only on romantic relationships?
No. The listing says its ideas apply to romantic love, friendship, family, and other relationships.
Who wrote How to Feel Loved?
The listing identifies Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis as the authors.
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